Can you imagine us, years from today, sharing a park bench quietly?
Friendships are odd, aren’t they? They’re hard to predict, hard to understand and even harder to live without. They often come from nowhere and too frequently fade into awkward nothingness through no-one’s particular fault.
I find it incredibly hard to imagine being 70 and no longer being in contact with any of my good friends from now. Yet it’s more than likely, isn’t it, really? Probably even the norm for people who don’t live their whole lives in one town. And I know that several of my closest friendships from school or university have either died or are slowly dying the death due to lack of communication/interest/etc.
I also find it kind of hard to imagine making new friends. I mean – I have the friends I have now. How could there be more than that? Even though I know there will be, surely, some day.
It is just…kind of strange…to realise how dependent I am on something so very changeable.
But then, sometimes I can be wrong. I remember this time last year thinking how strange it was that I’d meet Em and jes and then probably never see them again in my life. And yet here I am now, looking at flights for New York…
posted by skittledog @ 2:55 pm
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Can't you just see us sitting around kicking each other when we're old?
And I'm glad we're seeing each other again! My life has been so much less manic after Paris... *grins*
O ye of little faith. I knew I'd see you again.
God that sounds creepy.
If for some reason I can't now make it to NY, it's totally your fault for jinxing it. ;)
And I am so not manic...when I'm not around you two...
Right, you're bookish and reserved, yes? ;)
Skittledog? Reserved?
Ye gods.
Those words look wrong just sitting together ont he screen.
Bookish and reserved. Exactly.
A straw poll of all those who are not em and jes revealed exactly those results.
...I may possibly have excluded biped too.
No, I can confirm that she is nice and quiet when not around Em and Jes. The serene tranquility she exudes is only interrupted by occasional bouts of manic borderline madness, rather than the raised levels of all out insanity witnessed when confronted with antipodeans.
Heehee.
Thank you sooo much.
*mutters*
And I'm nice and quiet when not around Em. So clearly it's all down to the Melbourne girl. *points finger*
*strangled cough*
It is not all my fault! Was I manic in Paris? No, I was strolling around holding hands with Ash and looking smug.
I will go so far as to admit that I'm probably an evil infuence on Jes, especially when we meet people like Keppet and get excited...
"sharing a park bench quietly"
myo and I used to do that in school holidays – walk to a wildflower bush park halfway between our houses, meet up at a particular bench. Friendship is being able to sit together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
A lifetime accumulates many acquaintances, why is it only some become friends?
shami is wary of fairweather friends – they are like your shadow, keeping close while the sun shines, but gone with any cloud (and they can be your husband for 25 years).
Maintaining friendships is the hard part. One-sided efforts tend to die.
Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say.
True friends know they are in each others thoughts, are truly persuaded of each other’s worth. Those friends never leave your heart, even if they leave your life for a while. After years apart you can still pick up with them right where you left off.
What relief when there is a friend who cares. Shared sorrow is halved, shared joy doubled. Laughter is the shortest distance between friends.
But shami would advise it is best to be able to not depend on friendships. Ultimately there comes a time when no-one is around when you could really use some help.
"A friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else."
- Len Wein
"I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar."
- Robert Brault
"The most beautiful discovery that true friends can make is that they can grow separately without growing apart."
- Elizabeth Foley
"Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being."
- Goethe
"The best thing to do behind a person's back is to pat it."
- Unknown
i love your comment Shami, what a good friend you must be. *sigh*
i'm always expecting too much of people and especially of friends. i often forget that people have their own lives and problems or simply their own moments when they want to do or see other things or people.
i'm better now, but i used to feel really betrayed and abandonned when someone i loved couldn't be there for me, or just wanted to see other people.
I'm afraid i'm a bit 'exclusive' still and feel rather depressed when people i care for clearly don't give a damn about me.
it's one of the main reasons why i'm still rather careful about making new friends, i just don't want to be hurt.
awww that's sounds so selfish.
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